August 15, Ankle Socks

It honestly almost pains me to post this before photo because in my opinion it is SO BAD!! And please note, I wouldn’t actually wear this- but I have seen women that do, and I feel it is my duty to point out that ankle socks with tennis shoes are a major don’t!

It’s not just the ugly socks that are wrong in my before look, the denim shorts are also a problem. They don’t fit well- they are too tight, creating almost a baby romper look! They pinch at the thigh- which is not flattering at all. The after shorts allow a little room- making my legs look thinner. I also like the lighter denim for this casual outfit.

While this is adorable on a 2 year old, it’s not so cute on me! Photo creds: Ruffle Butts!

But the problems don’t even stop there. The oversize, crew neck is also bad. As mentioned, it is too big- you can see how the shoulders drop down my arms, and I had to tuck it in or else you’d wouldn’t have even been able to see the shorts. And to be frank, it’s just a plain, boring shirt. The Michael Stars shirt in the after photo is a better option. It’s still super casual, but also has some style to it with the Henley neckline. My Converse All Stars (with no socks) complete this easy outfit.

May 8th, Mean Girls

I’m not teaching today, so I am going to work around my house cleaning, organizing and taking care of everything I ignored last week when I was out of town.

Today’s look is my Mean Girls graphic t shirt paired with cut off denim shorts and my Converse All Stars. It’s a cute, casual look that’s perfect for the 80 degree weather we are supposed to have later today. On the right is my attempt to try something new. Normally I would never pair a graphic t shirt with a pencil skirt, but I thought it would be fun to try- and honestly, I love the way it looks! It’s perfect if you don’t want to wear shorts, and the casual tennis shoes really dress it down. You could also try sandals, see below.

Skirt- Nordstrom, Halogen, similar one here

T shirt- Target, similar one here

Shorts- Old Navy

Shoes- Converse

Now, for my rant about Mean Girls (I apologize in advance, but feel like I need to step on my soapbox for a minute).

While I loved the movie, and thought it was hilarious, there is nothing funny about Mean Girls in real life. I know that there is a lot of mean behavior that goes on in our kid’s lives- and as mothers, we need to do everything we can to

1. teach our kids kindness

2. teach our kids how to be resilient

I think as moms it is so important that we are honest with ourselves and aware of the examples we are setting for our kids. Even if we don’t realize it, our children are watching and mimicking everything we do. There are a few questions you can ask yourself to check in and make sure your behavior is setting a good example.

  1. Do you talk behind people’s backs in front of your kids? Do you gossip?
  2. Have you ever cut in line, told a white lie or cheated on something?
  3. Do you always include everyone in your social gatherings? Do you send birthday invitations to school and leave people out?
  4. Do you post pictures of events on social media where people have been excluded?
  5. Do you use the phrase ‘popular kids’? Or try to navigate or steer your child socially into the ‘right group’?
  6. Do you teach empathy and talk about how other people are feeling?
  7. Do you encourage your child to problem solve on their own and use ‘I messages’?
  8. Have you taught your child coping measures for when things don’t go their way?

As a teacher, I see mean girl behavior every day- and I hate to say this, but a lot of it is coming from home. Mean girls often have mean moms. We have the power to change that. Set a good example for your daughter and the world will be a better place.

Thanks for reading- and if you have any tips you want to share or pass along, please feel free to do so. I’d love to start a conversation about how to help our kids be the best version of themselves!