Oct. 13th, Tying too Hard?

The scarf tied as a belt emphasizes my waist and brings definition to this oversize sweater.
Without the belt/ scarf and with black tights. Is this too safe? Too boring?

I’m come to a place where I am so inspired by all the amazing fashion/ style blogs that I view daily, that I feel the need to push the envelope a bit with my styling choices. But on the other hand  when one of my favorite readers (that’s you Jenny M) wrote on Monday how my outfit looked so entirely different than anything I normally wear- I realized she was right!

So my question is, what’s the difference between being fashionable and trying too hard? My goal is to be stylish, but I also don’t want to lose my identity (or look ridiculous).

Today’s outfit is another example of that. On the right is how I have worn this in the past. A pretty purple sweater, a black pencil skirt, some black tights, black heels and a necklace. Nothing too exciting, definitely nothing to risky- just plain and simple- and definitely ME!

On the left is my attempt to re-style this look. I have tied a scarf around my waist (now the ‘tying’ in the title makes sense, right?), and added colored tights (all the rage) and my new black booties. I honestly think this looks pretty great, but is it me? Am I comfortable wearing this? NO!

Let’s face it, I’m 40 years old and these damn booties just aren’t working out for me. As much as I’d love them to- honestly, they aren’t comfortable, and I want this blog/ experiment to be real. Am I REALLY going to wear those booties all day? No, I’m going to wear comfortable flats- because that’s WHO I AM!

Here is my advice to myself:  If I’m not entirely comfortable with what I’m wearing don’t even try to fake it. Yes, in order to be stylish, take some small risks and find what works for me (not for a 25 year old).

Instead of the outfit above,  I’ll wear the scarf – but around my neck, I’ll wear a real belt, I’ll keep the colored tights (but only with tall boots so you can’t really see them) and ditch the booties!

A good compromise for my look today! This reflects ME! (sorry this is blurry, not sure what happened?)

Note to self- go buy a new bra! This is pathetic!

Skirt: Gap, Sweater: Nordtroms,Tights: Marshalls, Booties: Marshalls, Heels: Nordstroms, Necklace: H&M